So What? Letting go of comparison and running your own race

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So What? Your Guide to Unshackling from Comparison and Judgement

Ever find yourself scrolling through your social media feed, captivated by others who seem to have it all? You're not alone.

We often fall into the spiral of comparison and judgement, and that's the very moment you need to pause and say, "So what?"

The Tyranny of Should's
First off, let's address the 'shoulds' that cloud your judgement. You 'should' have this job, you 'should' be at this stage in your life, you 'should' have achieved X by now.

'Should' is the enemy of self-belief. It's high time to shed these 'shoulds.' In my blog on “Shouldatives,”

I dive deep into how this five-letter word can be a mental trap, stifling your true potential - click here. A simple yet profound shift from 'should' to 'could' can unlock new vistas of possibility.

Don't let someone else's timeline dictate your life's narrative.

Unleash the "So What?" Mantra
Comparison is a slippery slope. The next time you find yourself sliding down this treacherous path, grab onto the lifeline of the "So what?" mantra. It's a sanity check, a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you.

I've talked about this in my video on how to stop comparison, and it's a tool that can ground you back into your own reality.

Success isn't a zero-sum game; there's room for everyone to thrive, especially when you're operating in your own authentic space.

Be you and do that really really well. 

The Power of Depth
The surface is filled with distractions, stressors, and irrelevant metrics of success. These are mere diversions, ripples on the water.

The profound treasures of life lie deep below.

When you dive into your own ocean of goals, passions, and values, you access a level of fulfilment that surface-level accolades can never bring.

Commit to your purpose, go deep, and that's where you'll find your unique version of success.

Navigate by Your North Star (or what I call your inner GPS)
External metrics of success are like changing winds; they can steer you off course. Your authentic self is your North Star, the fixed point to guide you through life's stormy seas.

Your journey is uniquely yours; make sure you're the one setting the course.

For insights on how to define your own metrics and navigate life on your own terms, tune into my podcast, we've just released Season 5 which is super exciting -  Radical Self Belief, available on iTunes and Spotify.

Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Lane
Running a race? The worst thing you can do is to look sideways. That's a surefire way to stumble and lose your momentum.

Keep your eyes firmly set on your own lane, focused on your personal benchmarks for growth. The only person you're in competition with is yourself—yesterday's version.

Aim to be better, not in comparison to others, but in an evolution of your own self.

60-Second Stress Reset - A little bonus when fear and comparison set in:
In a world perpetually on fast-forward, stress can be your constant companion. Here's a 60-second reset technique to help you stay centered:
1. Inhale deeply for 5 seconds.
2. Hold your breath for 5 seconds.
3. Exhale completely over 5 seconds.
4. Hold the breath out for 5 seconds.

Repeat this box-breathing technique three times. It’s a quick, effective way to recalibrate your body and mind.

In summary, practice saying "So what?" liberate yourself from the ties of comparison and judgement.

Be daring, be courageous, and be your exceptional self.

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